Write A Letter
Abraham Lincoln, a lawyer by profession, was skilled in writing long letters. When mad at someone, he would channel his anger to pen and paper rather than verbal or physical exchange. He would write down why he felt he was wronged and what he wanted them to know. When finished, Lincoln would fold the letter, put it in a desk drawer, and never send it.
I believe Lincoln knew that fighting back was easy. Giving someone a piece of his mind was very tempting. However, he was wise to realize that he’d almost always end up with regret. What words have you spoken or actions you have taken that you regret? What were the consequences? What was the outcome? Was a there a win-win benefit to your response?
Self-Awareness
Lincoln writing a letter reflects his ability to recognize the intensity of his emotions to address a negative situation. This exercise in writing may have also motivated him to finding a win-win solution to a major issue.
Lesson for 21st century professionals: Think before you speak. Write, read, and reread before pressing send on a questionable email or text message. Ask yourself, “What outcome am I looking for?”
Managing Reactions
Lincoln had the presence of mind to give “space,” to pause and address his emotions to an issue. Writing allowed him the time to think before he reacted.
Lesson for 21st century professionals: What is your endgame? Will you regret your response? Give yourself space.
Situational Awareness
Do you think Lincoln was mindful of his professional position or the potential dangers or repercussion of mailing the letter to the intended recipient?
Lesson for 21st century professionals: Be hyper aware of your words and actions — the consequences may affect many.
Managing Relationships
Writing letters allowed Lincoln time to recognize and express his emotions on paper. Telephones were unavailable in the 1800’s. Writing his thoughts on paper may have also allowed him time to calm down and remember that people were his greatest resource for achieving success.
Lesson for 21st century professionals: IQ and EQ need to work together for the greater good.
